Ukuhlukana nomngane okwavela ukuthi ungamanga kungaba buhlungu ngendlela emangalisayo. Ukuthola ukuthi othile omthandayo nomethembayo akakaze abe khona ngempela kuwe kungenye yezinhliziyo ezibuhlungu okunzima ukubekezelela. Nokho, phakathi kobuhlungu, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukulahlekelwa umngane mbumbulu kuyithuba elibalulekile lokukhula komuntu siqu nokufunda, futhi izingcaphuno zabangane mbumbulu kulesi sihloko zihloselwe ukukusiza.
Nakuba kungase kube nzima ukuyeka ubungane, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukugcina umuntu ongenazo izinhloso zangempela kungaba yingozi kakhulu. Ubuhlungu bokukhashelwa bungase bungapheli ngokushesha, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzoba ngcono ngaphandle komngane mbumbulu empilweni yakho.
Ukwamukela imizwa yakho nokuzivumela ukuthi uyizwe kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile sokuqhubekela phambili. Ukukusiza ekuboneni ukubaluleka kwakho kwangempela, sihlanganise iqoqo lezingcaphuno mayelana nabangane mbumbulu. Lezi zingcaphuno zisebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuthi, naphezu kobuhlungu, isipiliyoni sokuyeka siwuhambo oluguquguqukayo oluya embuthanweni onempilo futhi oyiqiniso ngokwengeziwe. Yamukela ithuba lokwakha ukuxhumana nalabo abakukhathalela ngokweqiniso futhi abanentshisekelo enkulu enhliziyweni yakho.
Izingcaphuno Ezinhle Kakhulu Abangane Bamanga
I-Quote 1: "Qinisekisa ukuthi amabhubesi owagingqa nawo awazona izinyoka ezicashile." – Genereux Philip
Lesi sisho siseluleka ukuthi siqaphele inkampani esiyigcinayo. Amabhubesi, ngokuvamile abhekwa njenganamandla futhi anokwethenjelwa, angase abe izinyoka ezikhohlisayo. Ngamazwi alula, isikhuthaza ukuba sikhethe abangane ngokuhlakanipha, njengoba akubona bonke abanjengoba bebonakala.
I-Quote 2: "Umngane weqiniso akalokothi akuvimbe ngaphandle uma kwenzeka wehla." – Arnold H. Glasow
Amazwi kaGlasow agqamisa ingqikithi yomngane weqiniso osekelayo futhi oqondisa ngaphandle kokuphazamisa, ngaphandle kwalapho kubalulekile. Ngamagama alula, abangani bangempela bakhona, ikakhulukazi lapho ubhekene nezinselele.
I-Quote 3: "Abayingozi kakhulu phakathi kwethu beza begqoke njengezingelosi, futhi sifunda sekwephuzile ukuthi bangodeveli abazifihlayo." - UCarlos Wallace
Lesi sicaphuno sisixwayisa ngabantu abakhohlisayo abangase babonakale belungile kodwa befukamele izinhloso ezilimazayo. Ngamazwi alula, lisikhuthaza ukuba sibaxwaye labo abazenza abalungile kodwa empeleni beyingozi.
I-Quote 4: “Ngabanezinhliziyo ezinkulu kuphela abangaba abangane beqiniso. Umuntu okhohlakele noyigwala akasoze azi ukuthi busho ukuthini ubungane beqiniso.” - UCharles Kingsley
UKingsley ugcizelela ukuthi ubungane beqiniso budinga izimfanelo ezinjengomusa nesibindi. Ngamazwi alula, abangane beqiniso banezimfanelo ezinhle, kuyilapho abangenazo lezi zimfanelo abanakukuqonda ukujula kobungane beqiniso.
I-Quote 5: "Abantu abaningi bafuna ukugibela nawe nge-limo, kodwa okufunayo umuntu ozogibela ibhasi uma i-limo iphuka." – Oprah Winfrey
Isicaphuna sika-Oprah igcizelela ukubaluleka kwabangane abahlala nawe ezikhathini ezinhle nezimbi. Ngamagama alula, kusikhuthaza ukuba sazise abangane abahlala besekela phakathi nezinselele.
I-Quote 6: “Asilokothi silahlekelwe abangane; ezingombombayi ziyadalulwa.” - UCarlos Wallace
Lesi sicaphuno sisikisela ukuthi ubungane beqiniso buhlala njalo, kuyilapho abangamanga ekugcineni beveza ubuzenzisi babo. Ngamagama alula, ukuxhumana kwangempela ukumelana nezinselele, kuyilapho abakhohlisayo behlanjululwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
I-Quote 7: "Ukuzivikela okungcono kakhulu ukuyeka i-radar yabantu abangalungile." – USteven Redhead
Amazwi kaRedhead aseluleka ukuthi sigweme amathonya amabi ukuze sizivikele. Ngamagama alula, ukuhlala kude nabantu abayingozi kuyisivikelo esingcono kakhulu sokungabi nandaba.
I-Quote 8: "Kuyadingeka, futhi kubalulekile, ukubeka izindinganiso zokuphila kwakho kanye nabantu obavumela kuyo." – Mandy Hale
Isicaphuna sika-Hale igcizelela ukubaluleka kokubeka izindinganiso ezimpilweni zethu kanye nobudlelwano esibuhlakulelayo. Ngamazwi alula, kusikhuthaza ukuba sibe nemingcele futhi sikhethe ubuhlobo ngokuhlakanipha.
I-Quote 9: "Umngane oyedwa mbumbulu angenza umonakalo omkhulu kunezitha eziyi-10... Hlakanipha ngokukhetha abangani bakho." – Ziad K. Abdelnour
Lesi sisho sigqamisa ingozi engaba khona edalwe umngani mbumbulu uma kuqhathaniswa nezitha eziningi. Ngamagama alula, libonisa ukubaluleka kokuqonda lapho ukhetha abangane.
I-Quote 10: "Yisiphi isilonda esikhona kunomngane wamanga?" – Sophocles
USophocles ucabanga ngobuhlungu bokukhashelwa umngane wamanga. Ngamagama alula, lesi sicaphuni sisikisela ukuthi ukukhashelwa umuntu omethembayo kungenye yamanxeba abaluleke kakhulu.
I-Quote 11: "Abangane beqiniso bayakwamukela lokho oyikho, i-wart nakho konke." - UJeffrey Michael
Amazwi kaMichael agubha ubungane beqiniso, lapho ukwamukelwa kungenamibandela. Ngamazwi alula, abangane beqiniso basamukela nakho konke ukungapheleli kwethu.
Funda futhi: 30 Izingcaphuno Ezikhuthazayo Nezikhuthazayo Zabafundi
I-Quote 12: "Ukuqeda amathonya ayingozi kufanele kube yinto evamile, hhayi okuhlukile." - UCarlos Wallace
UWallace useluleka ukuthi sisuse njalo amathonya amabi ezimpilweni zethu. Ngamagama alula, ikhuthaza ukwenza ukuqedwa kwamathonya ayingozi kube umkhuba ojwayelekile.
I-Quote 13: "Isikhathi sihamba, futhi uqala ukubona abantu ukuthi bangobani ngempela hhayi ukuthi bazenza bani." – Scarlet Koop
Amazwi kaKoop agqamisa ukubaluleka kwesikhathi ekudaluleni umlingiswa wangempela. Ngamagama alula, iphakamisa ukuthi ubuntu bangempela buvela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, buveze ukuzenzisa.
I-Quote 14: "Kunabantu abazokunikeza isikhathi lapho kukhanya, bese uphela lapho kukhanya." – Anthony Liccione
Amazwi ka-Liccione abonisa abangani besimo sezulu esikahle abakhona ngezikhathi ezimnandi kodwa abanyamalala phakathi nezinselele. Ngamagama alula, ixwayisa ngalabo abanamathela kuphela lapho izinto zihamba kahle.
I-Quote 15: “Abangane bakubuza imibuzo; izitha ziyakubuza.” – Criss Jami
Amazwi kaJami ahlukanisa phakathi kwabangane beqiniso kanye nezitha ngokusekelwe endleleni yabo yokubuza imibuzo. Ngamagama alula, abangani bangempela bacela ukuqonda, kuyilapho izitha zibuza ukungabaza.
I-Quote 16: “Awusoze walahlekelwa abangane. Ezangempela zizohlala noma ngabe kuthiwani, nama-fake awuwadingi.” – Drishti Babalani
Amazwi kaBablani afakazela ukuthi abangani beqiniso bayakhuthazela, kuyilapho abangamgunyathi bengalahlwa. Ngamazwi alula, ikhuthaza ukwazisa ubungane beqiniso nokuyeka abangathembekile.
I-Quote 17: "Abangane bamanga banjengethunzi: bahlale beseduze nawe ngezikhathi zakho ezikhanyayo, kodwa akukho ndawo ongabonwa ngayo ngehora lakho elimnyama." – Khalil Gibran
Isifaniso sikaGibran sifanisa abangani mbumbulu nethunzi, abakhona ngezikhathi ezimnandi kodwa bengekho ngesikhathi sobunzima. Ngamagama alula, ixwayisa ngalabo abakhona kuphela lapho izinto zihamba kahle.
I-Quote 18: "Umngane weqiniso akalokothi akuvimbe ngaphandle uma kwenzeka wehla." – Arnold H. Glasow
Ukuphindaphinda kukaGlasow kugcizelela umqondo wokuthi abangane beqiniso bayawusekela kunokuba bavimbele intuthuko yakho ngaphandle kwalapho kuyingozi. Ngamagama alula, abangani beqiniso bamelana nawe futhi banikeze usizo lapho ludingeka.
I-Quote 19: "Qiniseka ukuthi amabhubesi ogingqa nawo akuzona izinyoka ezicashile." - Genereux Philip
Amazwi kaFiliphu agcizelela ukubaluleka kokukhetha abangani abathembekile, eqokomisa imvelo yokukhohlisa abanye abangaba nayo. Ngamagama alula, ikhuthaza ukuqaphela ngokwethembeka kwalabo abaseduze kwakho.
I-Quote 20: "Umngane wamanga nesithunzi siya kuphela lapho ilanga likhanya." - Benjamin Franklin
Isingathekiso sikaFranklin sibonisa ukuthi abangane bamanga, njengezithunzi, bakhona kuphela phakathi nezimo ezivumayo. Ngamagama alula, ixwayisa ngalabo abakhona kuphela lapho izinto zihamba kahle.
I-Quote 21: "Abayingozi kakhulu phakathi kwethu beza begqoke njengezingelosi futhi sifunda sekwephuzile ukuthi bangodeveli abazifihlayo." - UCarlos Wallace
Isixwayiso sika-Wallace esicaphuna sixwayisa ngabantu abazenza abantu abanomusa kodwa babonakale benonya. Ngamagama alula, ikhuthaza ukuqapha kulabo abanezinhloso ezicashile eziyingozi.
I-Quote 22: “Abantu bacabanga ukuthi ukuba wedwa kukwenza ube nesizungu, kodwa angicabangi ukuthi lokho kuyiqiniso. Ukuzungezwe abantu ABABI kuyinto enesizungu kakhulu emhlabeni. ” - UKim Culbertson
Umbono kaCulbertson ubekela inselele umbono wokuthi ukuba wedwa kuholela ekubeni nesizungu, ugcizelela umthelela omubi wokuba nabantu abangalungile. Ngamagama alula, iphakamisa ukuthi inkampani esiyigcinayo inquma umuzwa wethu wesizungu.
I-Quote 23: “Abantu abakhathalelayo nabanonembeza abakwazi ukumela ukubona noma ubani ehlupheka, futhi umkhohlisi ngokuvamile uthola kulula ukudlala ngozwela ukuze athole ukubambisana.”— George K. Simon Jr.
U-Simon Jr. ugqamisa ukuba sengozini kwabantu abakhathalelayo ekuphathweni kabi yilabo abafuna ukubambisana. Ngamagama alula, ixwayisa ngabakhohlisi abasebenzisa uzwela ukuze bazuze.
I-Quote 24: “Yeka ukujabulisa abantu abanobuso obubili. Uyabazi abahlukanise ubuntu nemikhuba engathenjwa.”- Amaka Imani Nkosazana
UNkosazana weluleka ngokumelene nokuzibandakanya nabantu abanenkohliso abanokuziphatha okungahambisani nemikhuba engathembekile. Ngamagama alula, ikhuthaza ukugwema labo abanobuntu obubili.
I-Quote 25: "Akukho umngane mbumbulu noma umqambimanga ongathenjwa, ngemfihlo." - Ellen J. Barrier
Ukucaphuna kuka-Barrier kubonisa ukuntuleka kokwethembeka kubo bobabili abangani mbumbulu nabaqambimanga, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ekugcineni izimfihlo. Ngamagama alula, ixwayisa ngokuthululela isifuba kulabo abangase bangathembeki.
I-Quote 26: “Balekela abangani bamanga. Akukho lutho olubizwa ngeqiniso elingaphelele. Noma yini ebonakala ingamanga ingamanga!”- Israelmore Ayivor
Iseluleko sika-Ayivor sisikhuthaza ukuba siziqhelelanise nabangane bamanga, sigcizelela ukuthi noma yini efana namanga ayilona iqiniso ngempela. Ngamagama alula, ikhuthaza ukugwema ubudlelwano bokungathembeki.
I-Quote 27: “Ungalinge uvumele othile ukuthi akutshele inani ongenalo, ukuze ube sempilweni yomuntu. Ngokuvamile lokho kuba yigugu abanomuzwa wokuthi unalo, hhayi lowo muntu.”— UShannon L. Alder
Ukucaphuna kuka-Alder kweluleka ngokumelene nokuvumela abanye ukuba banqume ukubaluleka kwethu ngenxa yokuba sempilweni yabo. Ngamagama alula, ikhuthaza ukuqaphela ukubaluleka kwethu kunokuthembela ekuqinisekiseni kwangaphandle.
I-Quote 28: “Ungakhohliswa izifihla-buso zabo. Abantu mbumbulu bagcina beveze imibala yabo yangempela. Vele ulinde kuze kube yilapho imaski yabo idinga ukuhlanzwa. ” – Sonya Parker
Iseluleko sikaParker esingokomfanekiso sixwayisa ngenkohliso, sigomela ngokuthi abantu mbumbulu bazoveza ubunjalo babo bangempela lapho ubuso babo obungaphambili budinga ukulungiswa. Ngamagama alula, kukhuthaza isineke ukubona ngokuzenzisa.
I-Quote 29: “Ubuhlungu obubi kakhulu emhlabeni budlulela ngale kwenyama. Ngisho nangaphezu kwanoma ibuphi obunye ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo, umuntu angabuzwa. Kuwukukhaphela umngane.” – Heather Brewer
Amazwi kaBrewer agcizelela ubuhlungu obukhulu bokukhaphela ubungane, okudlula ukucindezeleka ngokomzimba nokunye okungokomzwelo. Ngamagama alula, ichaza ubuhlungu obujulile obubangelwa ukukhashelwa komngane.
I-Quote 30: “Uma usebenza nabantu abanobuso obubili, kunzima ukwazi ukuthi ibuphi ubuso obubi kakhulu, obangempela noma obukhiqiziwe.”- Matshona Dhliwayo
Ukuqaphela kukaDhliwayo ngabantu abanobuso obubili kukhombisa inselele yokubona uhlangothi olubi kakhulu - umuntu wangempela noma owakhiwe. Ngamagama alula, igqamisa ubunzima bokuqonda isimo sangempela sabantu abakhohlisayo.
I-Quote 31: "Labo abakushaya ihlombe emhlane ngesandla esisodwa bangase bavale imaski yomona ngemuva kwabo nesinye." - Stewart Stafford
Ukucaphuna kuka-Stafford kuphakamisa ukuthi labo ababonakala besekela bangase babe nomona noma izinhloso ezimbi ngemuva kwe-facade. Ngamazwi alula, ixwayisa ngabantu abenza sengathi bayakhuthaza kuyilapho befihla imizwa engemihle.
I-Quote 32: “Abanye abantu bafana namabhu. Bazoba nawe lapho impilo yakho ikhanya futhi iyinhle. Beza ukuzohlekisa ngokukhanya kwakho. Kodwa, ziphinde zibaleke uma izibani zicisha.”- Mitta Xinindlu
Isingathekiso sikaXinindlu sifanisa abantu abathile namabhu ahehwa ukugqama, afune ukuzijabulisa kodwa avele anyamalale uma izimo zifiphala. Ngamagama alula, ixwayisa ngabangane besimo sezulu esilungile abanamathela ngezikhathi ezivumayo kuphela.
U-Aldo Funda: 115 Izingcaphuno Zokuhlukana Ezinhle Kakhulu Zokukuthola Ebuhlungwini Benhliziyo
Izingcaphuno Zabangani Bamanga Zokukhuthaza
33. “Ukuyeka abantu abanobuthi empilweni yakho kuyisinyathelo esikhulu sokuzithanda wena.” - Hussein Nisha
Cabanga ngokuphila kwakho njengengadi enhle, futhi abantu abanobuthi banjengokhula olusongela ukudlula izimbali. U-Hussein Nishah usikhumbuza ukuthi ngokususa lezi zakhi eziyingozi, sakha isikhala sokukhula kokuzithanda. Njengoba nje umlimi ethena ukuze akhule enempilo, ukuyeka ubudlelwano obunobuthi kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile ekuthuthukiseni inhlalakahle yethu.
34. “Uma ungekho ngesikhathi ngizabalaza, ungalindeli ukuba khona ngesikhathi ngiphumelela.” — UWill Smith
Amazwi kaWill Smith agqamisa ukubaluleka kokusekelwa kwangempela ebunganini. Abangane beqiniso bayasimela ebunzimeni nasebubini, begubha ukunqoba kwethu futhi bayasiduduza ebunzimeni bethu. Ukungabi bikho kokusekelwa ngezikhathi ezinzima kuveza ubuqiniso bobungani, kusiqondisa ukuba sibone ukuthi ubani ofanelwe ukuhlanganyela ekunqobeni kwethu.
35. “Anilahlekelwa lutho. Awulahlekelwa uma ulahlekelwa abangane bamanga.” - UJoan Jett
Ukucaphuna kukaJoan Jett kusikhuthaza ukuba sibheke ukuhamba kwabangane bamanga hhayi njengokulahlekelwa kodwa njengenzuzo. Lapho sisusa ubuhlobo obunobuthi, silahla imithwalo engadingekile, sivule indawo yokuxhumana okuhle okunengxenye enhlalakahleni yethu. Ukulahlekelwa abangane bamanga, empeleni, kuyisinyathelo sokuzuza impilo enempilo nejabulisayo.
36. “Ngesikhathi esithile kufanele ufunde ukuthi abanye abantu bangahlala enhliziyweni yakho kodwa hhayi empilweni yakho.” — Sandi Lynn
Amazwi kaSandi Lynn adlulisa iqiniso elibuhlungu mayelana nokuwohloka nokugeleza kobudlelwano. Nakuba abanye abantu bengase babambe indawo ekhethekile ezinhliziyweni zethu, akubona bonke abenzelwe ukuhlala ezimpilweni zethu unomphela. Ukubona lo mehluko kusivumela ukuba sazise umthelela abantu abathile kithi ngaphandle kokuphoqelela ukuba khona kwabo esikhathini sethu.
37. “Udala isikhala esiningi empilweni yakho lapho uguqula umthwalo wakho oweqile ube udoti.” - Chinonye J. Chudolue
U-Chinonye J. Chudolue udweba isifaniso esinamandla phakathi kwemithwalo engokomzwelo kanye nemfuhlumfuhlu engokomzimba. Njengoba nje sibhidliza izindawo zethu zokuhlala, ukudedela abangani mbumbulu kusiza ukucekela phansi indawo yethu yemizwa. Ngokulahla umthwalo oweqile wobudlelwano obunobuthi, sivula isikhala sobuhle, ukukhula, nokuxhumana kwangempela.
38. “Ungalokothi unake umuntu ofanelwe ukuthula kwakho.” — Emma Xu
Amazwi ka-Emma Xu agcizelela ukubaluleka kokunaka kwethu namandla. Ukukhetha ukuthula esikhundleni sokuzihlanganisa nalabo esingabafanele ukunakwa kuvikela inhlalakahle yethu engokwengqondo nengokomzwelo. Ukuqondisa kabusha ukugxila kwethu ebuhlotsheni obuhle kuqinisekisa ukuthi amandla ethu atshalwa ekuxhumekeni okuphakamisayo kunokuba aqede amandla.
39. “Akunangqondo ukuzama ukwandisa ubungane obabuhloselwe ukuba inkathi yokuphila konke.” -Mandy Hale
Amazwi kaMandy Hale agcizelela isimo sesikhashana sobunye ubungane. Njengoba nje izinkathi zonyaka zishintsha, kanjalo nokushintshashintsha kobudlelwane. Ukuqonda ukuthi akubona bonke ubungane obenzelwe ukuba bube phakade kusenza sikwazise izifundo esizifunda phakathi nezinkathi ezithile zonyaka futhi ngomusa siyekele lapho isikhathi esifanele.
40. "Kwesinye isikhathi amabhuloho owashisayo akhanya ngendlela efanele."
Isicaphuna sokugcina siphakamisa ukuthi isenzo sokuqeda ukuxhumana okuthile kungakhanyisa indlela yokukhula komuntu siqu kanye nenjabulo. Ukushisa amabhuloho nabantu abanobuthi kungase kudingeke ukuze kwakhiwe isiqondiso esicacile nesiqondile ekuphileni kwethu, sivule indlela yobudlelwane obunempilo nekusasa eliqhakazile.
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