Ukuqeda ubuhlobo nomuntu owake waba naye ngesikhathi sokuzijabulisa kunzima, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngemva kwalokho.
Ukuhlukana kushaya kakhulu, kukushiya udabukile futhi ulahlekelwe, ikakhulukazi uma ubeke inhliziyo yakho nothando lwakho.
Ukuze sikusize kulesi sikhathi esiyinselele, sihlanganise iqoqo lezingcaphuno ezithwebula imizwa okungenzeka ukuthi unayo. Lezi zicaphuno zihambisana nobuhlungu, zikhuthaza ukuqina, futhi zinikeza induduzo njengoba uzulazula ngemva kwemiphumela yokuhlukana.
Ukuqomisana kungaba nzima, futhi lapho izinto zingahambi kahle, izindlela zokuhlukana ukuphela kwendlela futhi akulula neze. Akunandaba ukuthi ubuhlobo bathatha amasonto ambalwa noma iminyaka eminingana—ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo kuphawulekayo.
Njengoba uzama ukuphulukisa ekuhlukaneni, ukufunda izingcaphuno ezifana nemizwa yakho noma ezikukhuthaza ukuthi uqhubekele phambili kungaba umthombo wenduduzo.
Noma ngabe ufuna ikhwothi eveza kahle imizwa yakho noma amazwibela e-Instagram ahambisana nokuthunyelwe kwakho, kunezingoma eziningi nezingcaphuno ezitholakalayo ukuchaza lokho ongakuthola kunzima ukukudlulisa. Ukusuka kokuphakamisayo kuye kokucasulayo ngisho nokuhlekisayo, hlola leli qoqo lezingcaphuno ezinhle kakhulu zokuhlukana ezihambisana nakho konke okuzwayo.
Izilinganiso Ezinhle Zokuhlukana
- "Ezinye izinto ziphula inhliziyo yakho kodwa zilungise umbono wakho."
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuno sisikisela ukuthi naphezu kobuhlungu bokuhlangenwe nakho okuthile, kungaholela ekukhuleni komuntu siqu nasekuqondeni okucacile kokuphila.
- "Ayikho into ebuhlungu njengokuphoxwa ngumuntu obucabanga ukuthi ngeke akuphathe kabi." - Gugu Mofokeng
- Incazelo: UGugu Mofokeng uzwakalisa ubuhlungu obujulile bokukhashelwa umuntu esasikholelwa ukuthi uyohlale emeseka. Ithinta ukuba sengozini kokuthembana ebudlelwaneni.
- “Awuphumi ekuhlukaneni ulambatha. Konke ukuhlukana kufundisa isifundo. Thola eyakho.”
- Incazelo: Ukuhlukana, nakuba kubuhlungu, kunikeza izifundo ezibalulekile. Isicaphuna sisikhuthaza ukuthi sicabange ngesipiliyoni futhi sikhiphe ukuhlakanipha ukuze siqhubekele phambili esikhathini esizayo.
- “Ungabambeleli ephutheni ngoba nje uchithe isikhathi eside ulenza.”
- Incazelo: Ngokuvuma ukutshalwa kwesikhathi ebudlelwaneni, lesi sicaphuno sisikhuthaza ukuthi sigweme ukuqhubekisela phambili iphutha ngenxa nje yesikhathi esitshaliwe. Ikhuthaza isibindi sokudedela.
- “Angibi nomona lapho ngibona owakwami enomunye umuntu, ngoba abazali bami babehlale bengifundisa ukunikeza abantu abampofu amathoyizi ami asekudala.”
- Incazelo: Kuyahlekisa, lesi sicaphuni sihlela kabusha umbono wokubona owayekade enothile omusha, egqamisa ukubaluleka kokuqhubeka ngomusa namahlaya.
- “Ungavumeli umuntu ongalufanele uthando lwakho akwenze ukhohlwe ukuthi ubaluleke kangakanani.”
- Incazelo: Le ngcaphuno igcizelela ukubaluleka kokuzihlonipha futhi ixwayisa ngokumelene nokuvumela umuntu ongafaneleki ukuba anciphise ukubaluleka komuntu.
- “Wathandana nesiphepho. Ubucabanga ukuthi uzophuma ungenamyocu?” - UNikita Gill
- Incazelo: Ingcaphuno engokomfanekiso kaNikita Gill ifanisa uthando nesiphepho, ixwayisa ngokuthi ubudlelwano obunothando buvame ukuza nezinselele nemiphumela.
- “Ungakhali ngoba sekuphelile. Mamatheka ngoba ekugcineni useyinkinga yomunye umuntu.”
- Incazelo: Ukujova amahlaya enqubweni yokuhlukana, lesi sicaphuno sisikisela ukuthola impumuzo nenjabulo eqinisweni lokuthi umthombo wosizi awusenandaba yomuntu.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Abantu abashesha ukuhamba yibo abangazange bahlose ukuhlala."
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuni sokuhlukana esihlekisayo sinikeza umbono odlalayo kulabo abaphuma ngokushesha ubudlelwano, okusho ukuthi abakaze bazinikele ngokweqiniso.
- I-Quote Yokuhlukana Okuhlekisayo: “Uyijeli ku-burger yami, ummese esobhoni lami, i-glitter ku-sushi yami, kanye neketchup ku-ayisikhilimu wami. Iphuzu lami liwukuthi, awulutho.”
- Incazelo: Isebenzisa iziqhathaniso ezingenangqondo, lesi sicaphuno sichitha ukubaluleka komuntu okukhulunywa ngaso, sisebenzisa ukubhuqa ukuze sibhekane nokuhlukana.
- "Kumele sibeke ubudlelwano bethu ezingeni langaphambilini."
- Incazelo: Umdlalo ohlakaniphile wamagama, lesi sisho ngokuhlekisa siphakamisa ukuhlehla ebudlelwaneni, sigqamisa ubuwula bokuzama ukuhlehlisa ukuqhubeka kwabo.
- I-Classic Breakup Quote: "Ukuhlukana kuzosho ukuthi wayeyintombi yami. Wayeyintombazane engumngane wami oseyintombazane engaseyena umngane wami.” - USheldon Cooper, I-BIG BANG THEORY
- Incazelo: Indlela enengqondo ka-Sheldon yokuhlukanisa ngokuhlekisayo igcizelela inguquko esuka ebunganini iye ekuntulekeni kobudlelwane.
- “Kungcono ukungashadi ngendlela esezingeni kunokuba uzilahlekele ngenxa yokuvunyelwa.”
- Incazelo: Le ngcaphuno ikhuthaza ukugcinwa kwezindinganiso zomuntu siqu nobuqotho, ngisho noma kusho ukuhlala ungashadile, kunokuba uzibeke engozini ukuze ugunyazwe abanye.
- “Ubudlelwano, ngicabanga ukuthi, bufana noshaka. Kumele iqhubeke njalo iya phambili noma iyafa. Futhi ngicabanga ukuthi esikuphethe ushaka ofile.” - U-Alvy Singer, u-Annie Hall
- Incazelo: Isifaniso sika-Alvy Singer sigcizelela isidingo sokukhula okuqhubekayo ebudlelwaneni, siphakamisa ukuthi ukuma kungaholela ekubhujisweni kwabo.
- I-Inspiring Breakup Quote: “Akuzona zonke izivunguvungu eziza zizophazamisa impilo yakho. Abanye beza ukuzovula indlela yakho.” — UPaul Coelho
- Incazelo: Isicaphuna sikaPaulo Coelho ihlela kabusha umqondo weziphepho, iphakamisa ukuthi ezinye izinselele azizona izithiyo kodwa ngamathuba oshintsho oluhle.
- Kwesinye isikhathi angazi ukuthi yini engihlupha kakhulu. Izinkumbulo zakho… noma umuntu ojabule engangikade nginguye.” - Ranata Suzuki
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuni esibuhlungu siveza umzabalazo wangaphakathi phakathi kwezinkumbulo zobudlelwane obudlule kanye nokulahlekelwa umuntu owake waphila.
- “Awubulawa yinhliziyo ebuhlungu. Ufisa nje ukuthi wenze njalo."
- Incazelo: Iveza ukushuba kobuhlungu obungokomzwelo, lesi sicaphuno siwuthatha ngokucacile umuzwa wobuhlungu benhliziyo kuyilapho sivuma amandla okukhuthazela.
- “Eqinisweni, sithandwa sami, angikunaki.” — URhett Butler, Uhambile Nomoya
- Incazelo: Umugqa oyisithombe ka-Rhett Butler osuka kokuthi “Gone With the Wind” ubonisa ikhefu eliwujuqu, ubonisa ukungabi nandaba nomuntu owake wathandana naye.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "I-ex yakho ekucela ukuthi nibe ngabangane ngemuva kokuhlukana kufana nabathumbi abakucela ukuthi uhlale uthintana ngemuva kokukukhulula."
- Incazelo: Ngokusebenzisa amahlaya, lesi sicaphuni sihlekisa ngomqondo wokulondoloza ubungane nomuntu wangaphambili, ukudweba ukufana okuhlekisayo nesimo esingalindelekile.
- "Ngizohlale ngiwazisa imibono yami yokuqala eyiphutha ngawe."
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuni sivuma ngokudlalayo ukushintsha ukusuka emibonweni eqondile ukuya ekuqondeni okungokoqobo kobudlelwano.
- “Akasekho. Wanginika ipeni. Ngimnike inhliziyo yami, wanginika ipeni.” - Lloyd Dobler, Isho Noma yini
- Incazelo: Umbono oxakile ka-Lloyd Dobler ngokuhlukana ugcizelela ngokuhlekisayo ukushintshaniswa okungafani kwezinto ezithinta inhliziyo.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Ubudlelwano bethu bufana nesimo sami sezezimali: sephukile."
- Incazelo: Kusetshenziswa ulimi lwezezimali, lesi sicaphuni esihlekisayo sifanisa isimo sobudlelwano nokuba ntula ngokwezimali, sengeza ukuthintana okulula ekuhlukaneni.
- "Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele sibe abantu esingabazi abangcono."
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuni sisikisela ukuthi ukuziqhelelanisa nobuhlobo obuhlulekile kungaholela ekukhuleni komuntu siqu, kuguqule lokho okujwayelekile kube into engaziwa.
- "Uma ngifuna ukuba yilungu lephalamende, ngidinga ukushada noJackie, hhayi uMarilyn." - Warner Huntington III, Ngokusemthethweni Blonde
- Incazelo: Isitatimende sika-Warner sibonisa okulindelwe umphakathi kanye nezifiso ezihlobene nobudlelwano, sidweba ukufana okuhlekisayo nabantu abayisithonjana u-Jackie Kennedy no-Marilyn Monroe.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Kuwo wonke amaphutha ami, ubuyiphutha kunawo wonke."
- Incazelo: Ifaka amahlaya ekuzibonakaliseni wena, lesi sisho sivuma ngokudlalayo imvelo yephutha elibonakalayo ebudlelwaneni.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Uma ukhipha u-L esithandweni, kuphelile." - I-Motels, "Thatha i-L"
- Incazelo: Lo mdlalo wamagama usebenzisa ukususwa kohlamvu “L” kokuthi “isithandwa” ukukhombisa ukuphela kobudlelwano, kwengeze ukusonteka okuhlakaniphile esimemezelweni sokuhlukana.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: “Ngenze umdanso omusha. Ibizwa ngeMove on with Your Life.” - I-Sky Corrigan, inkanyezi
- Incazelo: Indlela yokudala ye-Sky Corrigan yokuqhubekela phambili yethulwa ngokuhlekisayo njengomdanso, ekhuthaza umbono ongenangqondo ngempilo yangemva kokuhlukana.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Ama-roses abomvu. Ama-Violets aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka. Udoti uyalahlwa kanjalo nawe.”
- Incazelo: Lokhu kuzivumelanisa nenkondlo okuhlekisayo kuqhathanisa ukuphela kobudlelwane nokulahla udoti, kusetshenziswa inhlekisa ukuze kuzwakale ukuxoshwa kozakwethu.
- "Ngabe kuke kube nesizungu, ucabanga ukuthi ungaphila ngaphandle kwami?" - UHalsey, "Ngaphandle Kwami"
- Incazelo: I-lyric ka-Halsey ibhekana nesizungu esingase sivele lapho umuntu ebona umthelela wobudlelwano empilweni yakhe.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Ngidinga ukuthi ukhansele ukubhalisa kwami ngoba sengiqedile ngezinkinga zakho."
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuni esihlekisayo sifanisa ukuphela kobudlelwano nokukhansela okubhaliselwe, okuphakamisa isifiso sokuzikhipha emthwalweni ongokomzwelo wozakwethu.
- "Kuphelile. Ngicela uphume esikibha sami sikaVan Halen ngaphambi kokuthi uqhamuke nebhendi bese behlukana.” - URobbie Hart, Umculi Womshado
- Incazelo: Isicelo esihlekisayo sika-Robbie Hart sihlobanisa ukuhlukana nenkolelo-ze ye-jinxing, sengeza ukusonta okuhlekisayo ekupheleni kobudlelwane.
- “Angisakuthandi. Hamba kahle." — Alice Ayres, Closer
- Incazelo: Ukuvalelisa okuqondile kuka-Alice Ayres kufaka ubulula nesiphetho sokuqeda ukuxhumana kwezothando.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Kungenzeka ukuthi ngakhala lapho ungishiya, kodwa ngivele ngahleka lapho ngibona ukuthi ungishiyeleni."
- Incazelo: Lesi sisho sisebenzisa amahlaya ukuze sibhekane nobuhlungu bokuhlukana, ukuthola ukuzijabulisa ekukhetheni umlingani omusha.
- “Akuwena, yimina. Ekugcineni ngibonile ukuthi ungiphethe kabi.”
- Incazelo: Umugqa wakudala wokuhlukana unikezwa ukusonteka ngokuvuma ukuthi isikhulumi siwubonile umthelela olimazayo wobudlelwano enhlalakahleni yaso.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: “Ingabe uyalwazi ulimi lwezandla? Ngoba uyagcina ukuzwa ngami.”
- Incazelo: Lo mdlalo wamagama ohlakaniphile uphakamisa ngokuhlekisayo ukuqeda ukuxhumana ngokukhomba ulimi lwezandla, ngokujova into yokudlala ekuhlukaneni.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Ngeke ngikudlalele ubisi." - U-Sam Spade, I-Falcon yaseMaltese
- Incazelo: Ukwenqaba kuka-Sam Spade ukuba nomuzwa wokuzwela kwenqaba ngokuhlekisayo umqondo wokudlala “ubisi” noma uthando olungenangqondo esimweni sokuhlukana.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Ingabe uyihange? Ngoba awenzanga lutho ngaphandle kokungithwalisa kanzima.”
- Incazelo: Kusetshenziswa ulimi oluyisingathekiso, lesi sisho ngokuhlekisa sifanisa uzakwethu nehange, sigqamisa umthwalo ocatshangwayo ebudlelwaneni.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Ngoba uma ngikubuka udla, uma ngikubona ulele lapho ngikubuka kamuva nje, ngifuna ukukuphahlaza ubuso bakho." - UBarbara Rose, The War of the Roses
- Incazelo: Inkulumo kaBarbara Rose engagwegwesi yokukhungatheka ibonisa ngokuhlekisa ukushuba kwemizwa engemihle ebuhlotsheni obungaphumeleli.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Ngithole ama-puddles ajulile kunawe."
- Incazelo: Lokhu kuqhathanisa okuhlekisayo kuphakamisa ukuthi ngisho nama-puddles ajule kakhulu kunokujula kwezimfanelo zozakwethu, okungeza ukuthinta kwenhliziyo elula ekuhlukaneni.
- I-Quote Yokuhlukana Okuhlekisayo: "Ngiyabonga, ngokulandelayo." - U-Ariana Grande, "Ngiyabonga, Okulandelayo"
- Incazelo: Ibinzana elinika amandla lika-Ariana Grande ligcizelela ukubonga ngolwazi kanye nokulungela ukudlulela esahlukweni esilandelayo empilweni.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: “Bathi udoti wendoda eyodwa uyigugu lenye indoda. Ngethemba ukuthi uzothola umuntu okwazisayo.”
- Incazelo: Lesi sisho sisebenzisa isisho esivamile ukudlulisa isifiso sokuthi umlingani athole othile omazisayo, enezela ukusonta okuhle ekuhlukaneni.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: “Ukuhlukana kwethu kwakubangelwa ukungezwani kwezenkolo. Wayecabanga ukuthi unguNkulunkulu. angizange.”
- Incazelo: Ngokuhlekisayo ihlanganisa ukuhlukana “ngokungafani kwezenkolo,” lesi sicaphuni siqokomisa ngokudlalayo ukuzicabangela kozakwethu okuphakeme.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Ngizibiza ngo-Han ngoba udinga ukuba Solo."
- Incazelo: Lo mdlalo okhaliphile wamagama umemezela ukuzimela ngokuhlekisa ngokukhomba abalingisi abayisithonjana u-Han Solo kanye no-Solo.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Uzibiza ngomoya okhululekile, into yasendle. Uthukile ukuthi kukhona ozokufaka ekhejini. Hhayi-ke mntanami usungenile kulelo kheji. Uzakhele wena.” - UPaul Varjack, Ukudla kwasekuseni eTiffany's
- Incazelo: Ukubuka kukaPaul Varjack kuphonsela inselele inselelo ngokuhlekisayo “umoya okhululekile,” osikisela ukuthi lowo muntu usevele evalelwe yizinto azikhethayo.
- “Anginaso isikhathi namakhrayoni, ukukuchazela lokhu.”
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuni sidlulisela ngokuhlekisayo ukuntuleka kwesineke noma ukuthambekela ekuchazeni isimo esiyinkimbinkimbi, kusetshenziswa isingathekiso samakhrayoni ukuze kugcizelele ubulula.
- I-Classic Breakup Quote: “Ngicela ungakhohliswa u-Adele. Ngeke uze umthole onjengami.”
- Incazelo: Lesi sisho sidlala ngobuhlakani engomeni ka-Adele edumile, ephakamisa ukuthi umuntu uhlukile futhi ngeke akwazi ukushintshwa kalula.
- “Angifuni amagama nje. Uma kuyilokho kuphela ongiphathele kona, kungcono uhambe.” - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Beautiful and The Damned
- Incazelo: Amazwi kaF. Scott Fitzgerald agcizelela ukubaluleka kwezenzo ezinengqondo ebudlelwaneni, ukwenqaba izinkulumo ezikha phezulu zothando.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: “Ingabe ungusonkanyezi? Ngoba ngidinga indawo.”
- Incazelo: Lo mugqa wokucosha ohlekisayo ophenduke isicaphuna sokuhlukana sisebenzisa umqondo wokudinga isikhala ebuhlotsheni.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Inja yami inemidlwane futhi ngidinga ukuthatha ikhefu lonyaka ukuze ngiyiqeqeshe ukuthi ihlasele isithombe sakho."
- Incazelo: Lesi sizathu esingenangqondo senza ihaba ngokuhlekisayo ngesidingo sesikhathi sokuphumula, senezela into yokudlala enqubweni yokuqeda ubuhlobo.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: “Ungixakile kuphela ngoLwesine ekuseni. Yilolo suku engikhipha ngalo udoti.”
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuni esihlekisayo sisebenzisa umsebenzi ovamile ukukhombisa ngokuhlekisa ukuvama kwemicabango mayelana nozakwethu wangaphambili.
- "Asikaze siphinde, sibuyelane." - UTaylor Swift, "Asikaze Sibuyele Ndawonye"
- Incazelo: Isimemezelo sokugomela sika-Taylor Swift sithatha isinqumo sokuqeda ubudlelwano nokuzibophezela kokungabuvuseleli.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: "Uxolo, kubonakala sengathi ngilahlekelwe inombolo yami yocingo, ungenza okufanayo?"
- Incazelo: Lokhu kuguqulwa komugqa wokuthwebula okuhlekisayo kusetshenziselwa ukuphakamisa ngokuhlekisayo ukunqamula ukuxhumana.
- I-Funny Breakup Quote: “Ngikuxolele ngokweqiniso ngokungilahla. Manje sengiyabona ukuthi akubona bonke abantu abanambitheka kahle.”
- Incazelo: Lesi sicaphuni sishintsha ngokuhlekisa umbono wokulahlwa, siphakamisa ukuthi ukunambitheka kwe-dumper kungase kungabi kuhle.
Funda futhi: 30 Micromanagement Quotes kanye nencazelo yabo
Izingcaphuno Ezihlekisayo Zokuhlukana
1. I-Unique Take on Diamonds ye-Zsa Zsa Gabor: I-Quote Yasekuqaleni: "Angikaze ngizonda indoda ngokwanele ukuba ibuyisele idayimane layo." — Zsa Zsa Gabor
Ingabe wake wacasulwa othile kangangokuthi wacabanga ukumbuyisela izipho zakhe eziyigugu? Inkulumo ehlakaniphile kaZsa Zsa Gabor iphakamisa ukuthi akazange adelele muntu kangako. Cabanga uzonda umuntu kodwa ubambelele kulawo madayimane akhazimulayo akunike wona.
2. Ukuzulazula Othandweni Ngenhliziyo Edukile: Amazwi Oqobo: “Angisalandeli inhliziyo yami. Ilokhu inginikeza iziyalezo ezimbi.”
Ukunquma ukuyeka ukulandela inhliziyo yakho kungase kuzwakale kungavamile, kodwa lesi sisho sibonisa ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi izinhliziyo zethu ziyasidukisa. Cabanga ngenhliziyo yakho njenge-GPS enekhono lokukukhipha endleleni engafanele. Ukuyilandela kungase kungabi umqondo omuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi.
3. Isexwayiso sika-Adele Ekuzifihleni: I-Quote Yasekuqaleni: “Ngicela ungakhohliswa u-Adele. Ngeke uze umthole onjengami.”
Izwi lika-Adele elinamandla livamise ukucula mayelana nobuhlungu benhliziyo, kodwa lesi sisho siphakamisa ukusonta. Ixwayisa abanye ukuthi bangakhohliswa ngamazwi athinta inhliziyo ka-Adele, njengoba ukuthola umuntu ofana nesikhulumi kungase kube yinto engenakwenzeka.
4. Ukuhlakanipha Ngokudabuka: I-Quote Yangempela: "Uma beyiziphukuphuku ngokwanele ukuba bahambe, hlakanipha ngokwanele ukubayeka bahambe."
Lesi sicaphuno sikhuthaza impendulo ehlakaniphile ekuhlukaneni. Esikhundleni sokugxila kumuntu okhethe ukuhamba, hlakanipha futhi umvumele ahambe. Kuyisikhumbuzo sokuthi uzihloniphe ungajahi labo abangakuthandi.
5. Amadayimane Phakathi Kwamatshe Angenamsebenzi: I-Quote Yangempela: "Ngolunye usuku bayoqaphela ukuthi balahlekelwe idayimane ngenkathi bedlala ngamatshe angenamsebenzi." - Turcois Ominek
Zibone ngeso lengqondo uyidayimane eliyivelakancane neliyigugu empilweni yomuntu. Ngokusho kukaTurcois Ominek, kuzofika usuku lapho abahambe beyozisola ngokudlala “ngamatshe angelutho” esikhundleni sokwazisa igugu ababenalo.
6. Isiqalekiso Esinamandla: I-Quote Yasekuqaleni: "Ngithemba ukuthi uzonyathela i-Lego."
Ngezinye izikhathi izifiso zokuhlukana zingaba ezicacile ngokuhlekisayo. Lesi sifiso siwukubonakaliswa kwenhliziyo elula kodwa okuhlobene nokukhungatheka. Ukunyathela i-Lego kwaziwa emhlabeni wonke ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okubuhlungu, okwenza kube indlela ehlekisayo yokuveza ukucasuka.
7. Amandla Okwelapha Esikhathi: I-Quote Yasekuqaleni: "Isikhathi kuphela esingaphulukisa inhliziyo yakhe, njengoba nje isikhathi kuphela singaphulukisa izingalo nemilenze yakhe ephukile." — UNkosazana Piggy
U-Miss Piggy wengeza ukuthintwa kwamahlaya enqubweni yokuphulukisa. Isikhathi sivame ukubhekwa njengomelaphi omkhulu, hhayi nje ngenxa yezilonda ezingokomzwelo kodwa nokulimala ngokomzimba. Isifaniso sengeza inguquko yokudlala emcabangweni wokululama ekudabukeni kwenhliziyo.
8. Amaqanda kanye nobudlelwano: I-Quote Yangempela: "Ngithanda ubudlelwano bami njengoba ngithanda amaqanda ami - kulula kakhulu." - UJared Kintz
U-Jared Kintz udweba ukufana okuhlekisayo phakathi kobudlelwano namaqanda okupheka. Okuncanyelwayo kobudlelwano "okulula kakhulu" kwengeza ukuthinta okuhlekisayo, okusho isifiso sokwenza izinto zibe lula kanye nokukhululeka ekuxhumekeni kwezothando.
9. Iwashi Lothando Leminyaka Eyisikhombisa: I-Quote Yasekuqaleni: "Uthando luhlala cishe iminyaka eyisikhombisa. Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi amangqamuzana omzimba athathe indawo yawo ngokuphelele.” - UFrancoise Sagan
UFrancoise Sagan uletha ukusonteka kwesayensi kumqondo wesikhathi sothando. Ngokwalesi sicaphuno, uthando kuthiwa luhlala cishe iminyaka eyisikhombisa, luhambisana nesikhathi esithathayo ukuze amangqamuzana omzimba avuselelwe ngokuphelele. Kungumbono oyindida wokuphila isikhathi eside kothando.
10. Ukuguqula Izinyembezi zibe Ukumamatheka: I-Quote Yokuqala: “Ungakhali ngoba kuphelile. Mamatheka ngoba ekugcineni useyinkinga yomunye umuntu.”
Ukuhlukana kungase kube imizwa, kodwa lesi sicaphuno sikhuthaza ukushintsha kombono. Esikhundleni sokugxila ekugcineni kobuhlobo, thola induduzo eqinisweni lokuthi umuntu obangela izinyembezi manje usekhathazwa omunye umuntu.
11. Ukubuyisela Ubudlelwano Emuva: Ingcaphuno Yangempela: "Kudingeka siyise ubudlelwano bethu ezingeni langaphambilini."
Lesi sitatimende esihlekisayo siphakamisa indlela eyingqayizivele yobudlelwano. Esikhundleni sokuqhubekela phambili, isikhulumi sihlongoza ukubuyela emuva ebuhlotsheni, sengeze i-twist yokudlala emcabangweni wokuthatha izinto ezingeni elilandelayo.
12. Isimo Sezezimali Esiphukile: I-Quote Yasekuqaleni: "Ubudlelwano bethu bufana nesimo sami sezezimali: abuphukile."
Ukuqhathanisa ubudlelwano nesimo sezezimali "esonakele" kwengeza ukuthinta kwamahlaya eqinisweni lokuxhumana okunezinkinga. Kuyindlela elula yokuvuma izinselele ngaphakathi kobudlelwano.
13. Usizi Lwenhliziyo Enkathini Yedijithali: I-Quote Yasekuqaleni: "Awukaze ube nenhliziyo ephukile kuze kube yilapho kufanele uvimbe futhi ususe yonke into ngemva kokuhlukana."
Esikhathini sokuxhumana kwedijithali, lesi sicaphuni sithwebula ubuhlungu obuyingqayizivele bokuphuka kwenhliziyo kwesimanje. Ukuvimba nokususa yonke iminonjana yobudlelwano obudlule ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kufanekisa isici sedijithali sokuqhubekela phambili, okwenza inqubo yokuphulukisa ibe yinselele futhi ixhumeke.
Izingcaphuno Zokuhlukana Lapho Uthando Luphela
- "Abantu abahamba ngokushesha abazange baqonde ukuhlala." Ubudlelwano bufana nohambo, futhi akuwona wonke umuntu esihlangana naye omiselwe ukuba yingxenye yaphakade yempilo yethu. Kungenzeka ukuthi labo abahamba ngokuxhamazela babengahlosile ukuzibophezela kwasekuqaleni.
- "Izinhliziyo azikwazi ukusebenza kuze kube yilapho zinganqamuki." Lokhu kucaphuna kweWizard of Oz lisikisela ukuthi izinhliziyo zethu, nakuba zibalulekile, zingaba ntekenteke. Kusikisela ukuthi ukusebenza kwenhliziyo kwangempela kusekwazini kwayo ukumelana nezinselele ezilethwa ukuphila kuyo.
- "Ungalokothi ubeke phambili umuntu okuphatha njengenketho." Ukuhlakanipha kukaMark Twain kusikhuthaza ukuba sizazise ebudlelwaneni. Kuyisikhumbuzo sokuthi ukubaluleka kwethu akufanele nanini kube sengozini kumuntu ongabuyiseli izinga elifanayo lokuzinikela.
- “Ukuhamba usathanda into enzima kakhulu.” Ubunzima bokudedela kuyilapho kugcinwa uthando kuwumzabalazo ovamile womuntu. Lesi sisho sihlanganisa inselelo engokomzwelo yokuqeda ubudlelwano noma uthando lungapheli.
- "Ukuqhubekela phambili: Izinhlamvu eziyisithupha, amagama amabili, kulula ukusho, okunzima ukuchaza, okunzima ukukwenza." Ukudedela nokuqhubekela phambili kungase kuzwakale kulula, kodwa ubunzima obungokomzwelo obuhilelekile bukwenza kube umsebenzi onzima. Lesi sisho sithwebula ubunjalo benqubo eyinkimbinkimbi.
- "Uthando alunamibandela, kodwa ubudlelwano abukho." Uthando olungenamibandela lungamandla anamandla, nokho ubudlelwano budinga okungaphezu kothando nje. Lesi sicaphuni sigcizelela umehluko phakathi kwemvelo yothando engenamingcele kanye nokusebenza kokuxhumana kwabantu.
- "Uthando olushisa kakhulu lunesiphetho esibanda kakhulu." Amazwi kaSocrates aveza iqiniso elimsulwa lokuthi uthando olujulile ngezinye izikhathi lungaholela esiphethweni esisheshayo nesibandayo.
- “Siyeke ukuphila kwethu ebesikuhlelile kulowo osilindile.” Ukuqonda kukaJoseph Campbell kusikhuthaza ukuba samukele okungalindelekile, siyekele imibono esesiyicabangele ukuze sivule ithuba lamathuba angalindelekile okulindelwe ukuphila.
- "Ukuvalwa kuza uma uvala umnyango." Isicaphuna sikaJacki Wells Wunderlin sigqamisa ukubaluleka kokulawula inhlalakahle yethu engokomzwelo ngokuvala ngenkuthalo isahluko sobudlelwano obudlule.
- “Kwesinye isikhathi inhliziyo idinga isikhathi ukuze yamukele lokho ingqondo esuke ikwazi kakade.” Iqaphela umehluko phakathi kwemizwa yethu nemicabango ephusile, lesi sicaphuni sibonisa umzabalazo wangaphakathi phakathi nenqubo yokwelapha.
- “Awukwazi ukuqala isahluko esisha uma uqhubeka ufunda esokugcina.” Ukuqhubekela phambili kudinga ukudedela okwedlule. Lesi sicaphuni sigcizelela ukubaluleka kokwamukela ushintsho nokubheka esikhathini esizayo.
- "Wenzenjani uma umhlukumezi engumthandi wenhliziyo?" Lesi sisho sisenza sicabange ngobunkimbinkimbi bokufuna induduzo kumuntu owasibangela ubuhlungu.
- “Imicibisholo yenhliziyo eyaphukileyo ibukhali.” Isingathekiso sikaCassandra Clare sibuveza ngokusobala ubuhlungu obukhulu obuhambisana nobuhlungu benhliziyo.
- "Indlela abahamba ngayo iveza konke." Ukuqaphela okufushane kuka-Rupi Kaur kuphakamisa ukuthi indlela yokuhamba inikeza imininingwane mayelana nemvelo yangempela yobudlelwane.
- "Ukuyeka kunzima kakhulu uma ubona ukuthi omunye umuntu usekwenzile." Isisho sikaLalla sithwebula ubunzima bokwamukela ukuphela kobudlelwano, ikakhulukazi lapho ukugcwaliseka kweqembu lomunye umuntu kushaya kakhulu.
- "Ubudlelwano, njengoshaka, kumele buqhubeke njalo buqhubekele phambili ukuze buphile." Lesi sifaniso esivela ku-Annie Hall sibonisa ubudlelwano njengamabhizinisi aguquguqukayo adinga ukukhula okuqhubekayo ukuze aphumelele.
- "Ayikho into ebuhlungu njengokuphoxeka kulowo obucabanga ukuthi ngeke akuphathe kabi." Amazwi kaGugu Mofokeng azwakalisa ubuhlungu obukhulu bokukhashelwa ngumuntu esasimethemba kakhulu.
Funda futhi: Izilinganiso Zezemfundo Eziyi-13 Ezikhuthaza Abafundi Ukuze Baphumelele
Usizi Ngezingcaphuno Zomculo
- 'Good 4 u' ka-Olivia Rodrigo - "Wenza kahle ngaphandle kwami, baby/Njengomuntu ophila kahle" Kule ngoma, u-Olivia Rodrigo uchaza umuzwa wokubona umuntu eqhubeka ngaphandle kokuzikhandla njengokungathi akezwa buhlungu. Kufana nokubuka i-sociopath engabonisi imizwa, eshiya umculi ezizwa eshintshiwe futhi engabalulekile.
- 'Slayida Usukile' kaMiley Cyrus – “Kudala, sasenzelwa thina (Thina)/ Savuka ngolunye usuku, sase siphenduke uthuli/ Baby, satholakala, kodwa manje silahlekile/ Ngakho-ke isikhathi sokuyiyeka.” U-Miley Cyrus ubonisa ubudlelwano obabuphelele kodwa manje osebubhidlikile. Isingathekiso sento ephenduka uthuli sigcizelela ukungapheleli kothando. Naphezu kokutholakala ekuqaleni, umbhangqwana manje ulahlekile, futhi yisikhathi sokwamukela ukuphela.
- 'Izinyembezi Zoma Ngokwazo' ka-Amy Winehouse - "Ngeke ngikwazi ukuzidlalela futhi/kufanele ngibe umngane wami omkhulu" U-Amy Winehouse uyasivuma isidingo sokugqashula emjikelezweni wobuhlungu benhliziyo. Uyakubona ukubaluleka kokuzithanda futhi uphakamisa ukuthi ukudlala umdlalo ofanayo othinta imizwa akufanelekile. Isikhathi sokuba umngane wakho omkhulu.
- 'Imithetho Emisha' kaDua Lipa - "Okwesithathu: Ungabi umngane wakhe / Uyazi ukuthi uzovuka embhedeni wakhe ekuseni" / Futhi uma ungaphansi kwakhe, awumtholi ” UDua Lipa unikeza izeluleko ezisebenzayo zokuqhubekela phambili. Imithetho igcizelela ukubaluleka kokubeka imingcele ukuze kugwenywe ukubuyela emaphethini afanayo. Ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuba umngane noma ukusondelana kungase kuphazamise inqubo yokuphulukisa kubalulekile.
- 'Call Out My Name' by The Weeknd - "Ukuwela ngenxa yakho kube yiphutha lami." I-Weeknd ikubeka ngokungagwegwesi ukuzisola ngokungena othandweni. Ukuvuma iphutha kubonisa ukuqaphela okubuhlungu, kugcizelela umthelela wobudlelwane obuhlulekile.
- 'Ukukhanya Okuluhlaza' ka-Lorde - "Ingabe kukwethusile, ukuthi siqabulane kanjani lapho sidansa endaweni ekhanyayo?" U-Lorde ukhombisa ukushuba kobudlelwano obudlule. Umbuzo ubonisa intshiseko nokungazethembi kokuxhumana, okushiya isikhala sakho kokubili injabulo nokwesaba.
- 'Ngaphandle Kwami' ka-Halsey - "Ingabe ike ibe nesizungu, icabange ukuthi ungaphila ngaphandle kwami?" U-Halsey ungabaza isinqumo salowo owayekade ephila ngaphandle kwakhe, ezibuza ukuthi banomuzwa wesizungu noma wokuzisola. Ihlola umphumela wokuhlukana kanye nomthelela onawo kuzo zombili izinhlangothi.
- 'Zithande' ka-Hailee Steinfeld - "Ngizozithanda, cha, angimdingi omunye umuntu." Umlayezo onika amandla ka-Hailee Steinfeld ugcizelela ukubaluleka kokuzithanda. Izingoma zikhuthaza ukuzimela kanye nokuqaphela ukuthi umuntu angathola injabulo ngaphakathi kuye.
- 'Ngiyabonga, Okulandelayo' ka-Ariana Grande - "Ngiyabonga, ngokulandelayo." Iculo lika-Ariana Grande libungaza ukuqhubekela phambili ebuhlotsheni obudlule ngokubonga ngezifundo ezitholiwe. Inkulumo ethi "ngiyabonga, ngokulandelayo" iba i-mantra yokwamukela ikusasa.
- '10 Bands' by Drake – "Ex yami yangibuza, 'Where you movin'?' Ngathi, 'Qhubekela ezintweni ezingcono.'” Ukucaphuna kukaDrake kuphakamisa ukukhula nenqubekela phambili ngemuva kokuhlukana. Ukudlulela “ezintweni ezingcono” kubonisa ukuba nombono oqondile ngekusasa.
- 'Asikaze Sibuyele Ndawonye' kaTaylor Swift - "Asisoze saphinde sabuyelana." Isimemezelo sikaTaylor Swift esiqondile sibonisa isinqumo esiqinile sokuqeda ubudlelwano. Ukuphindaphinda kugcizelela isiphetho sokuhlukana.
- 'Shout Out to My Ex' by Little Mix - "Wenze inhliziyo yami yaphuka futhi lokho kungenze ngaba yilokho engiyikho." I-Little Mix yamukela umqondo wokuthi usizi lulolonga ubunjalo bomuntu. Ukuvuma ubuhlungu obudlule kuhlotshaniswa nokukhula komuntu siqu nokuqina.
- U-Tori Kelly, 'Bekufanele Kube Ngathi' – “Akunabulungiswa ukuthi ngisenendaba futhi ngiyazibuza ukuthi ukuphi namuhla kusihlwa. Ukucabanga ukuthi kungaba okuhlukile. Kodwa mhlawumbe sikugejile.” U-Tori Kelly uzwakalisa imizwa eqhubekayo kanye nokungalungi kokunakekela ngemva kokuhlukana. Ukuzindla ngalokho obekungaba khona kwengeza ukujula ohambweni lomzwelo.
- U-Rhett Butler, Uhambile Nomoya - "Ngokusobala, sithandwa sami, angikuniki lutho." Lesi sisho sakudala sihlanganisa umqondo wokungabi nandaba ngemva kokuhlukana. Impendulo eqondile kaRhett Butler isho ukuhlukana okuphelele ebuhlotsheni obudlule.
Ukukhuthaza Izilinganiso Zokuhlukana
Ukuhlukana kungaba nzima, kodwa futhi kuletha izifundo ezibalulekile. Nazi izingcaphuno ezilula zokuhlukana ezingakusiza uqonde futhi udlule kuzo ngesibindi:
- Ukudedela: Uma othile enquma ukushiya ukuphila kwakho, kungase kube ngcono ukumvumela. Kunzima, kodwa kungaba yinto elungile kini nobabili.
- Ukuzicabangela: Ukungashadi kulungile, ikakhulukazi uma kusho ukugcina isithunzi sakho kunokuba ushintshe ukuze uthole imvume yomunye umuntu.
- Yazi Inani Lakho: Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ubaluleke kangakanani, ngisho noma omunye umuntu engakuboni.
- Funda futhi Uqhubekele Phambili: Ukubambelela ephutheni ngoba nje ubeke isikhathi kulo akukhiqizi. Funda kuyo futhi uqhubekele phambili.
- Isibusiso Ngokuzifihla: Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuhlukana kungaba yinto enhle ekucashile, kukusize ubone ukuthi ungcono ngaphandle kwalowo muntu.
- Ukukhula Ngezinhlungu: Izinhliziyo ezibuhlungu zingaba buhlungu, kodwa zingakusiza futhi ubone izinto ngokucacile futhi ukhule njengomuntu.
- Yamukela Imanje: Gxila kulokho onakho manje nalokho okuseza, kunokuba ugxile kodlule.
- Amandla Ebunzimeni: Ubuhlungu bungakwenza ube namandla, ukwesaba kungakwenza ube nesibindi, futhi usizi lungakwenza uhlakaniphe.
- Ukuzithanda: Kubalulekile ukuzizwa ubalulekile nsuku zonke futhi unganeliseki ngokuncane kunalokho okukufanele.
- I-Silver Linings: Kwesinye isikhathi, izinto ezinhle ziyawohloka ukuze izinto ezingcono zihlangane ngokuzayo.
- Ukuzimela: Ukungashadi kusho izinkinga ezimbalwa zobudlelwane ongazikhathaza ngazo.
- Phila Okwamanje: Gxila ekujabuleleni namuhla esikhundleni sokugxila kulokho okungasekho.
- Ukwamukela Nokholo: Yamukela okwenzekile, uyeke okwedlule, futhi ukholelwe ekusaseni eliqhakazile.
- Isiqalo Esisha: Ukuqala phansi kungase kusabise, kodwa futhi kuyithuba lokudala impilo oyifunayo ngempela.
- Yeka Okwedlule Ngemva: Bheka phambili kulokho okuzayo, ushiye ngemuva noma yikuphi ukuzisola noma usizi.
- Zazise Izinkumbulo: Kunokuba udabuke ngokuthi okuthile kuphelile, bonga ngokuthi kwenzekile.
- Ukuziqinisekisa: Ukuthola ukuzethemba namandla ngaphakathi kuwena kunamandla futhi kunika amandla.
- Funda Futhi Ukhule: Konke okuhlangenwe nakho, ngisho nobuhlungu benhliziyo, kungakufundisa okuthile okubalulekile.
- Ukuqhubekela Phambili: Ungabuyeli kulokho okuzwise ubuhlungu. Qhubeka uye phambili ezintweni ezingcono.
- Ukuphelela: Ukuze uthole uthando lweqiniso, udinga kuqala uphelele ngaphakathi kwakho.
Okubhekwayo
- Ama-Goodreads: Gugu Mofokeng > Izingcaphuno
- Medium: "Ayikho into ebuhlungu njengokuphulwa ngumuntu obucabanga ukuthi ngeke akuphathe kabi"
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